As profound as the act of love-making can be for a husband and wife who have a truly healthy emotional and spiritual bond, it is but a “drop in the bucket,” “rust on the scales,” compared to the profound communion to which we are called with our Creator for all eternity.
“For your Maker is your husband, the Lord of hosts is his name” (Is 54:5).
WHY SUCH PROMISCUITY IN OUR TIMES? Because the majority of people today have lost sight of the deeper longing of the heart; and thus settle to find satisfaction in the mere physical, surface, pleasures of life. But this is the deceiver’s ploy, which will never fully satisfy; and only lead one to a frustrating search for fulfillment in the shallow waters of such pleasures.
“PUT OUT INTO THE DEEP,” Pope St. John Paul II encouraged us to do at the beginning of this new Millennium; because he knew of the deeper longings of the human heart, and that much of humanity was stuck on the sandbars of the deceptions of life.
Many years ago a friend of mine left her protestant Christian faith, saying to me that she felt so much freer now that she was not bound by the Christian law of chastity. She felt freer to explore the inclinations of the flesh without feeling guilty about it. And so she did. Today where is she? More lost than ever, depressed and suffering.
First of all, I do believe that the Christian doctrine she was exposed to was very oppressive. It wasn’t the authentic teachings of Christ which invites us to be transformed from within; but rather, a “pull yourself up by your bootstraps” spirituality focused on willpower and denying the sinful inclinations. It was very rigid, and so she did need to be set free in a way.
But, she threw the baby out with the bath water; throwing religion, and the law that our Lord has engraved in our hearts, out of the window all together.
SHE WENT FROM THE OPPRESSION OF RELIGIOSITY to the opposite of being enslaved by the flesh and the human will. So often people buy the lie of satan that they will become free if they don’t have to follow rules. But, as with most everything it is about the pendulum being in the middle; an integration of the human and spiritual, which John Paul II addresses in his Theology of the Body teachings.
It is of great importance that Christians go beyond the letter of the law to the spirit of the law, which is God Himself; and foster communion with Him. When we take on our true identity as “children of God,” we become free to be who He has created us to be; and the laws of God are no longer cumbersome, but liberating.
In her Christian walk, my friend never reached the level of sharing the deepest passions and longings of her heart with God; and surrendering them to Him. Thus, God was never able to fill her with that for which she was truly longing.
And so, she took the broad, wide road of letting her flesh, her human will, be lord. And, when we allow our human will to be in control of us, we are never truly fulfilled. We can see the fruits of this by looking at our world today. Many have let other things be their God: drugs, alcohol, sex, food, work, other people, themselves… resulting in increased levels of depression, despair, frustration, anxiety, evil, suicide and the list goes on. Hopefully such darkness will lead one towards the light of God’s love and truth.
Yes, sometimes people can feel stuck because they don’t want the religious oppression, but they aren’t happy as they are either.
They need to be invited into the fullness of what a life with God is meant to be… a life of communion with our maker. John Paul II tells us, “‘Abide in me, and I in you'(Jn 15:4). This relationship of profound and mutual ‘abiding’ enables us to have a certain foretaste of heaven on earth” (Mane Nobiscum).
This is the only piece that fits in the God-sized void within each of us. And, this is the ONLY way we will experience true happiness in life.
“Is this not the greatest of human yearnings? God has placed in human hearts a ‘hunger’ for his word (cf. Am 8:11), a hunger which will be satisfied only by full union with him. Eucharistic communion was given so that we might be ‘sated’ with God here on earth, in expectation of our complete fulfillment in heaven” (JPII, Mane Nobiscum).
“Mary is a ‘woman of the Eucharist’ in her whole life. The Church, which looks to Mary as a model, is also called to imitate her in her relationship with this most holy mystery” (JPII, Eucharistia).